Online Dating is very popular these days and as a result, competition for attention can be fierce. Lying is commonplace as is doctoring up the photos that accompany profiles. As a result, you have to take what others say with a grain of salt and be ready to meet someone who may have fudged a bit on their profile. It is very important that you, yourself, are true to who you are so that you do not present any falsehoods to potential dates.

So how do you attract attention being truthful with your profile when others may not be so honest? The key is developing a spiffy profile that presents you in the best possible light while staying true to yourself (and all of your supposed shortcomings). Here is some sage advice to get you started:

1.  Be Positive - When has negativity ever been attractive? Do you look for the quickest way out of a date when that person is complaining about work, ex-mates and more? Of course you do and so do other people as well! As a result, make sure your online profile is positive and upbeat. Like the old saying goes, “You attract more flies with honey than with vinegar.” For example, never say, “I hate going to the theater to see musicals” but rather “I enjoy watching action movie marathons” or whatever you love to do.

2.  Be Distinctive - Avoid the stereotypical “I am a fun loving person who enjoys … blah, blah, blah.” Everyone does this which is why they are STILL looking for Mr. or Ms. Right. Punch up what you love and stand apart from the crowd. If the beach is your thing, say something like “My favorite day would be spent at the beach frolicking in the waves, building sand castles and wrapping up the day with a campfire watching the sun set.” It sounds a lot better than “I enjoy the beach.”

Elaborate a bit on what you like to do whether it is cooking new dishes at home or trying new cuisines in restaurants. Whatever you can do to create an instant visual picture in a potential mate’s mind is a great way to be distinctive.

3.  Be Focused - It is perfectly ok to  tailor your profile to focus in on one particular type of person. Otherwise, you will be inundated with responses which could take days to wade through. You may just miss Mr. or Ms. Right this way. Instead, be specific. If you are looking for particular traits, say so. “I want someone who is between the ages of 25 and 40 who loves to dance.” You are now weeding out those candidates who are too young or too old who do not like to dance.

Your profile can be as specific as you want. Keep in mind however, that the more specific you are, the fewer responses you will receive from your online profile. So, if there are a few things that you are willing to compromise on, leave them out of the profile to broaden your target online dating audience.

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